Step Parents

We've all heard of wicked step-parents
In fairy tales as children.
Not all are like that, but many
Run into all kinds of problems.

Blending families is never easy,
Even if the children are adults.
They want their parent to be happy,
But you have hard work earning their trust.

Make sure they know you're not a
Replacement for their original parent.
You'd like to be their friend, but also
Have the respect and authority of any parent.

Don't take out your frustrations
About something on your step-kids.
It's not their fault if you have problems
With something that you did.

There is always a trial period of
Adjustment where they may do things
To test your resolve.  Let them know
You're aware and have your spouse's backing.

NEVER boast about your own children's
Accomplishments in front of your
Step-children.  They have accomplishments too,
That you need to acknowledge them for.

It's okay to be proud of your kids--
But talking about it all the time
Can make your step-children feel
They don't matter worth a dime.

My mom is step-mom to three children.
They all called her mom and their biological
Mom by her first name.  All mom did was
Love them and treat them like her own--very logical.

You have to tread carefully as a
Step-parent.  Not all families will
Be the Brady Bunch--
That's not always possible.